She's Not Horny Anymore

Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year. At the beginning of our relationship, she could not keep her hands off of me. Now I’d be lucky to feel a hand in a week. We didn't start having sex till about two months ago. Where did her sex drive go? What can I do to bring it back?

A. The answer to this is one that only she can give you! You need to have a frank, but sensitive, conversation to resolve this. You don’t give your ages, so it is impossible to tell at what point of physical and mental readiness she might be. If she was previously a virgin then it is possible that she has had second thoughts about starting her sex life at this time. She may think she should have waited longer, or perhaps she has discovered that the angst of waiting for her period every month is more than she had bargained for.

Read our article Am I Ready? (For Her) to consider what might be going through her mind. If she has changed her mind and wants to cease full-blown sex, then respect her wish and you will probably find that you will be ‘feeling a hand’ again. Give her the gift of time to be sure of what she wants – and when. As is always the case, communication is critical … go talk to her!